Comments on: 4am

By: Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 22 Nov 2016 15:02:06 +0000

I don’t want other mom’s of older kids to tell me it goes by quickly, too. I know it does and some days I feel that and other days I’m just to plain exhausted to really care that that should be my reality. It is quite literally a shit show, sometimes. But you are right, the anxiety I have is about losing it all. I’d be devastated. And when I think about a future when Mark and I are old and gray and our babies have moved out and it is just the two of us I feel so utterly and completely sad. I can’t imagine us not being all together. And then sometimes all I want to do is be alone. It’s possible to love it desperately and hate it at the same time.

By: Christina Campins-Schneider

Christina Campins-Schneider — Tue, 22 Nov 2016 13:39:14 +0000

Oh the memories of non-sleep. As I was reading, I felt I could tag all 3 of my girls along with your boys. The first baby who slept through the night, the second who is a terror and rules the house and the 3rd special blessing that didn’t sleep through the night till she was 4! Yep! She was the only baby I allowed into my bed and she didn’t leave until she was 4! I know sleep deprivation, we all do, so my wish for you is that it passes quickly and that you continue journaling for yourself and all of us out here who love cheering for you from the sidelines. Even though the oldest is now 18 and we are college shopping, there is a whole new set of anxiety. And even though I hide it well, my house still looks like a mini Toys -R-Us when you come over unannounced ????. Just the other night as we sat around the dinner table my 18 yr old was describing how great summer camp was to her sisters. They don’t know it yet, but overnight summer camp is coming for Christmas. My 18 yo told them about the activities they could sign up for. Archery, hip hop, making baskets….to which my 8yo replyed ” I want to make baskets b/c I am a good shooter” ???? It’s these little gems we have to put in our memory banks for later.

By: Kris Lawrence

Kris Lawrence — Tue, 22 Nov 2016 13:29:52 +0000

Hang in there lady. You are doing amazing. We had 3 kids in 17 months and I, too, was so exhausted I would lay awake at night stressed out about how I couldn’t sleep because a child would wake up in the next 25 minutes needing something. One of my favorite quotes is “In retrospect the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful of all.” and it’s so true. I love the stage we are in now (tweens) but the years of babyhood were a chaotic blessing that I would do again if I could rewind and replay. You are an awesome mom.

By: Lindsey Hein

Lindsey Hein — Tue, 22 Nov 2016 12:43:14 +0000

In reply to Suzy. Definitely teared up reading this- "Hang in there, I will if you will" Thank you for the encouragement! AND thank you for listening to my podcast and sharing those kind thoughts- that motivates me to keep it up and keep working hard to make it better every week. Holy moly 6 kids- keep on rocking it- and I love what you say- sleep is important but being connected to other humans is more important... SO TRUE. I need that reminder sometimes and not just about my kids but about my adult relationships as well. XOXO!

By: Lindsey Hein

Lindsey Hein — Tue, 22 Nov 2016 12:40:38 +0000

In reply to Barb. Thanks for reading Barb and for your insight here. I truly look up to you and how you parent (from what I see from the internets!! :)) I do look forward to the shit show of the teenage years but think maybe I'm most excited that I won't need a babysitter if we want to go out to dinner... haha. Much love!

By: Suzy

Suzy — Tue, 22 Nov 2016 02:11:33 +0000

The shit shows are the most rewarding! I have 6 kids! My oldest is 16, then 14, 11, my step kids are 13 and 10, and our youngest blended family baby is nearly 3. SO MUCH HARD. Sleep is important, yes, but it’s not everything. You know what everything is? Being connected to other humans. That’s what keeps us sane. 🙂 I love your podcast, Lindsey! You’ve got such a good heart, a sweet voice, and an ever-growing social media platform that I have no doubt will hold you up while you spread the good stuff. Hang in there! I will if you will!

By: Barb

Barb — Mon, 21 Nov 2016 19:26:16 +0000

Yes to all of this. It’s so hard and yet the greatest job I’ll ever, ever have. Each age is a privilege and in the midst of that shit show (because even at ages 17, 15 & 12 it’s still a shit show – a different sort of chaos certainly but a shit show nonetheless) I try so hard to pause and look around and cherish it. It’s an awesome thing we moms get to do.